6 Reasons Why You Are Afraid of Having a Relationship

6 Reasons Why You Are Afraid of Having a Relationship

Sometimes you may feel like you are desperate to be in a relationship, until the possibility is right in front of you.

When you are trying to find love , often fear is the only big thing that stands in your way.

But you learned when you were three years old with the story of the "monsters under the bed" that some fears are sometimes imaginary.

Here are 6 ways in which fear interferes with love, and why you should expel it from your life (and say yes to a new relationship).

You are afraid that they will break your heart

Let's touch this point once .

Everyone is afraid of being hurt . Does that make you feel better?

If life were like a game of giant bumper cars, and we were all afraid of hurting ourselves, we would be a little gentler with others , right?

So, let's all accept to be more honest with each of us about our feelings, and be nicer to each other in our relationships too, and let's hope some idiot does not break the rules and hurt us so badly that he makes us Go to a doctor to literally heal our heart.

But if you are afraid of being in a relationship because you are afraid of being hurt , you are a cliché person and you are destined not to go anywhere. And what advantage can it have for you?

You're afraid of not being a single girl anymore

Being single is something wonderful .

But unless you have very, very strong convictions of being single for the rest of your life (like the nuns), you're going to have to change at some point.

You may like being single now , but ask yourself this, do you want to be alone for the rest of your life?

Imagine yourself living alone at your 40 years . Do you agree with that image?

The answer to that question may be yes . But if you are not sure, and there is someone in your life who is interested in exploring a relationship together, and that person is there with their arms open for you, and is willing to help you get out of your comfort zone to a possible wonderful relationship, then it's time you accept it.

You are afraid to let someone know you

If you have not been in many relationships, it may seem strange to let someone know you - to see you disheveled in the morning, to see you in your best and worst moments, to truly let someone into your life .

 

You may think that the only reason why you seem attractive to someone is because they do not know you so well - because you have managed to put the best version of yourself for all to see - something that you can not necessarily do when you immerse yourself in a honest relationship.

But remember that you can not hide forever and nobody is perfect . Your new boyfriend will not be so perfect, either.

We have all received this information, so we are all in agreement with that .

You are afraid that love does not work

Maybe you never saw successful couples when you were younger , or maybe your parents get along so well that you thought "I will not be so lucky in any way"

Either way, you can not give up.

Love never works perfectly all the time, but that does not mean it's not the best you're going to experience - the good and the bad will always be present.

You are afraid of being too busy

If you are afraid to enter into a relationship because you do not think you have time , there is a much bigger problem here, and it has nothing to do with relationships.

You are hiding behind your work / hobby / obsession .

What are you afraid of? If your work is stopping the way to the possibility that you feel happy and full in a relationship and in love, what else is going to stand in the way? Your healing? Your Health? Your passion for metallurgy?

You are afraid to change

Yes, being in a relationship means that you will have to stop doing certain things (like spending every night watching the repeated episodes of your favorite series eating dinner in underwear talking to your grandmother over the phone).

But probably you sure stop doing those things anyway.

Maybe you have to quit smoking or spend a lot of money on cocktails every night in that new bar, or travel alone and not tell anyone where you're going, but you'll feel great about that later.